Sex After 50

I’m in my Florida writing “nest” tunneled vision and writing away about Sex after 50. One more time, I am humbled by all there is to learn and all I don’t know after I thought I was a “know it all” expert-sexpert. I’m including a brief paragraph from my notes. You can read more of my thoughts on this endlessly fascinating subject (at least I think it is) on the soon to be relaunched FiftyandFurthermore.com. (Yes, it is really finally happening.) Also watch for my articles on www.vibrantnation.com and in Counselor magazine. And, there are my new video segments on  AARP’s My Generation which is rapidly expanding to local channels near you.

Here’s a thought to ponder:

As we garner years, we all need to blaze our own trail. Few of us are ever really prepared to age.  We all realize if we live long enough, it’s bound to happen “someday,” but not today, and certainly not to us.  Getting older is one of those things we assume we will figure out when we get there, even though we’ve been aging all along.  But for those of us who hit puberty in the sex-soaked 1950s and 60s, aging may seem especially alien now.  Who are our role models for how sexy we can be in our 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond?  Clearly, not the stogy over-50s of our parents’ generation.  And there is another big difference between us and our elders:  People over 50 are living longer now than any group before.  That means many of us will be alive and kicking for many more years past our reproductive primes, and therefore, “doing it” longer than any other generation.  How we continue to remain sexual changes. But can we if we want to? Absolutely. The want to part is crucial. Many over 50’s hang up their sexual selves with age either because they truly no longer care and are simply relieved to no longer have to be “bothered “ by sex. Or their changing hormones have let them down and they aren’t aware that nature’s natural course isn’t necessarily natural at all. Sometimes we can all use a little help from varied friends of all kinds: hormonal, edible, exercise and personal. Desire is both physical and mental. I’ll share more as I continue to write.